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The Quick Guide To Online Dating
By Mybrotha.COM Staff Writer
We've compiled a list of, "Do's And Don'ts" for you to follow while engaging in online dating.
DO:
Be Yourself
There is nothing worse than a misrepresentation during an online encounter.
A young lady in St. Louis (We will call her, "Tracy") recently ventured into the online dating arena and discovered that it was full of exciting prospects. Even though she'd never intended on dating someone outside of a 20-mile radius, Tracy met a fella (We will call him, "Jim") who lived outside of the area.
Jim's profile listed him as a 6',1" - 187lb, 30-yearold black male, who is gainfully employed as a chemical engineer at a local corporation. His profile further stated that he was athletic, participates in sporting events, and loves to dress neatly. After a few emails and a number of IM conversations, Tracy began to believe that she'd found a truly awesome brotha. Not only was he her type, but their online conversations were awesome.
Being a bit daring, Tracy decided to approach Jim about speaking via telephone. When Jim agreed, the magic continued. The two talked for 3 hours the first night, and 4 hours the next night.
This process continued for about a month, when Jim inquired about an actual date with Tracy. Being new to the online thing, Tracy was a little apprehensive, but had built a genuine trust in Jim.
Jim and Tracy made plans to meet at a downtown restaurant and both were excited about the prospects of their new-found friendship.
When Tracy entered the restaurant, she noticed a man sitting in the area where she told Jim to look for her. The man was balding, appeared to be in his late 30's, stood about 5',8" tall, and wore the oddest color combination she'd ever seen.
Praying to God that this was not her date, Tracy sat at a table and waited for her true Prince Charming to show up. She really didn't have to wait long because Jim was already there - sitting at the table where Tracy hoped he wouldn't be.
Of course, Jim immediately recognized the young lady sitting at the table a few feet from him since Tracy described herself perfectly to him.
After Jim approached Tracy and introduced himself, the befuddled young lady promptly got up and left.
DON'T:
Misrepresent Yourself
One of the biggest complaints from online daters, is finding out that they have been coerced into believing something that is not true. Online daters have learned to be skeptical of "too good to be true" information they receive over the web.
Psychologists state that most people who lie about their appearances, height, weight, etc., do so in the effort to create a better image of themselves to potential partners. Once they've gotten their foot in the door, they feel that they have passed the first test.... even if it meant telling a lie.
Online dating sites warn: Never provide your real name in online profiles, or in your emails, until you feel totally comfortable with the person you're conversing with. You should also be extremely honest about your physical appearance, your habits, your hobbies, likes/dislikes, etc. These things may seem trivial now, but will later surface as resentment towards you.
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