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I wanted to talk more about something Hmurchison hit on the the Books & Movies thread.


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Interracial relationship don't bother me. However I simply like to observe the "qualifiers" that people state for their reasons. Frankly who you date is who you date with no qualifiers needed but it speaks volumes when someone says "well I couldn't find the ideal xxxx man/woman"


I think the biggest problem with interracial relationships have to do with this statement. Those, "qualifiers" are what piss people off. Granted, there are some sistas who don't care why you date a white woman. Just the fact that she has white skin is enough. But if a black man or woman say that date outside the race because "they can't find good black people" then I think that's crazy. I think they are making an excuse for their true feelings, which seem to be ... they have a problem with self/race-hatred.

Don't know if anybody ever watched the show Girlfriends on UPN. But one of the sistas (i forget who) started dating a white dude. After that, a lot of sistas stopped watching the show. A friend of mine said that all the black guys that had been on the show who dating the sistas, all had issues. One liked sex too much; one cheated; one was lazy and could not keep a job. Then a white man comes along and is a savior and marries one of the sistas.

I ain't never had a problem with interracial relationshps. But i can't stand it when a black person says they do it because there ain't no black people to date.


Why do every brotha who date white women have to be a self hating brotha?..I date white women from time to time and I love myself. Maybe it's because the brotha can vibe with the women. Maybe the brotha finds her natural blond hair, pretty eyes, and slim body attractive. Maybe because the white women doesnt nag as much as black women. Maybe because brothas dont want to deal with the "its all about me" personality most sistas contain, and the baby mama drama etc. Now I'm not saying every black women is like this, but the majority are. And it makes it hard to find a good black women. The brotha remembers the time when he had no car, no money, and the average sista wanted nothing to do with him. It's like the cartoon popeye. The average good brotha sits on the sideline like popeye waiting for Olive Oyl(the black women) to leave bluto(the thug brotha). But when olive keeps running back to bluto all the time, and suffering the abuse which she puts herself into, are us good brothas suppose to play popeye and rescue you?!?...Then when most black women come to their senses that these no good thugs are bad for them. There left with excessive baggage, kids, overweight and bitterness. Then they want us good brothas to step up to the plate. But most us good brothas are with women of other races who knows how to treat men. Then sistas complain about theres no good black men out..


Just SAD. I think black women would be even luckier if you dated white or non-black women exclusively. Your diatribe towards us just screams potential black female batterer if not murderer. And here is another pop culture reference that analogizes black gender relationships better than yours. Steve Urkel pursued the uninterested and socially different Laura Winslow even when a cute yet similarly nerdy Myra expressed a pathological devotion to him. Myra was just like him: not popular, beyond smart, musical instrument inclined, questionable wardrobe, etc., however that never piqued his interest. Bill Gates isn't married to a Pam Anderson look-alike he is married to a woman in his league sweater vest and all. I don't see black men (good or bad) pursuing those black women who aren't hip-hop video caliber dimes. The black women who feel comfortable in jeans and tees, can't afford or don't care to get their hair and nails "did" working two jobs to pay for their education. "Good" black men have "good" black female equivalents. We are more moved by the cerebral than the material. Just like black thugs have their female counterparts. And self-proclaiming yourself "good" doesn't necessarily mean you are.
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hey um well, i'm a 16 year old white female...may seem typical at my age in today's society, but i'm dating a black-zimbabwean guy and have done for the past year. there are obviously differences in customs and so on, but i don't think anything like that should stop two people from going out. i've had many racial comments by some of my black friends about how "white people steal all the black men, so thats theres none left for the black women"....and i know they mean it. i know a lot of girls who see these guys as some kind of fashion accessory...and it really is wrong. and in some cases, these guys do treat them like accessories too.
however, with me, race never meant much. i think its fun to have someone more exotic and i think he is indredibly handsome, but that doesnt change the fact that i like him for him. why is race an issue? mixing is beautiful...and realistically INEVITABLE.

black and white people should just get over it and enjoy the advantages it has...cos i do.
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Hi all,http://meet2go.com, this is an excellent dating site, here u can find live chats,excellent dating tips,straight and marvelous forum discussions,fun, and if u try there will a person already been waiting for you......iam sure about that
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My problem with IR when its base on stereotypes and self-hatred issues..
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I am so tired of hearing of my black people saying what they went through. Not every black person went through the hoopla. i dont like when a person tries to speak for the whole entire black race. I am a 39 year black woman whose parents went through the hoopla, ok. I didnt go through the hoopla like my parents. My parents over came all the hoopla back in those days and we they had their children, our parents move us out of a black community into an all white community. This was back in the 70's when we move into am all white community and to let u all know, the white community accepted us in their neighbor. U know why, cause the parents seen all us kids , black and white play together. See kids dont see color until the adults make it an issue. Our parents learned from us kids that color isnt an issue. Not everyone was happy about us being there but u know what, they got used to it and finally we started to be really neighbors and then we started to connect with each other a human beings. Not a race issue anymore. U hear the myths about black people and white people. Get to know a person first before u have ana opinion on them. It the year 2006 and now I go back to my old neighbor where i grew up at and now, it is an all mixed community now. Still a nice community. About interracial dating, I have had my share of black men in my life and some were good and some were not so good. I am now dating a white man who I have alot in common with. Yes, I do have alot in common with this man. Cause Im black and he is white doesnt mean we dont have anything in common. I work for a resturant as a server and my boyfriend is a lifegurad at a beach resort in Maryland. We work in the same but live in different states. He lives in Delaware and i live in Maryland. He only lives 30 minutes from me . It's not a long distance relationship as u might have thought it would be. When we met, we started to talk and develop a friendship and now the friendship has grown into a loving relationship. We didnt fall in love to shock people. He just happen to be that person who brings joy to my life. We compliment each other, encourage each other, support each other, just everything. What I am saying is that stop using the the hoopla and saying that u dont know what our people went through. To me , that is an excuse. Move on and create ur own future and stop using the past for an excuse.I agree with Realme. Explore the world and see what is out there. I did. Dont limited urself. My parents didnt allow us to limited ourselves. They always encourage us to go and seek what u want out of life. I have a job first, then a car . Me and my brother purchase a house together,so it will stay in the family and now I have a loving man who is there for me. That's all I want. To let u know, there r good and bad people in all races. Im a people person and i can get along with anyone. I work in the public eye. Realme, u continue to talk to the beautiful sista in Barbados!!!!!!!!! Im rooting for u and dont let these men on here feed u with the old hoopla cause alot these things they didnt even personally go through. They r talking as a race on what black people went through. That history now and let's move on!!!!!!!!!






Agreed,we've come along way from our past because people died to make it so..When u use the term[ hoopia] in a way u 're minimize our history in this country..I would never tell the native americans nor jewish americans to forget about their past..Out of respect for our ancestor u should call it as it was..Slavery,rape,jimcrow,lynching,segregation it want kill u..Honesty is needed here..Is "history' the past or did jena 6 happen and countless other eposides of hanging nooses in the past yr..Institutionalize racism is in still affect, not when our grands was drinking at colored water fountain..I found it patronizing to imply america is this eutopia where the issue of race is not a problem still..Mine u i don't have a problem with IR's..But don't belittle our past as some nightmare, instead of 400yrs of hell on earth..It sounds like the only way u can justifiy your relationship, is pretend in some way racism was only in our heads..No my sista, it was done to us..To reduce our history,What u call it [HOOPIA ]to a sound bite is insulting..Peace out!
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im not going to lie like a lot of you I Have a BIG PROBLEM WITH IR. The self hate.

black people think b/c of civil rights movements we have moved on but really we as a black race has not been able to fully heal from the effects of slavery. and i know IR is self hate.

why if black is beautiful you can't find a beautiful blk husband or wife????????
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maygeo1 wrote:
hey um well, i'm a 16 year old white female...may seem typical at my age in today's society, but i'm dating a black-zimbabwean guy and have done for the past year. there are obviously differences in customs and so on, but i don't think anything like that should stop two people from going out. i've had many racial comments by some of my black friends about how "white people steal all the black men, so thats theres none left for the black women"....and i know they mean it. i know a lot of girls who see these guys as some kind of fashion accessory...and it really is wrong. and in some cases, these guys do treat them like accessories too.
however, with me, race never meant much. i think its fun to have someone more exotic and i think he is indredibly handsome, but that doesnt change the fact that i like him for him. why is race an issue? mixing is beautiful...and realistically INEVITABLE.

black and white people should just get over it and enjoy the advantages it has...cos i do.
this white lady is dating a blk man and thinks she can add her two cents into the black community.

and see how she said he is exotic. if you listen carefully you will see they are basically saying black men and women are just fetishes.

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PetiteBB wrote:

brian07 wrote:

willie6 wrote:
I wanted to talk more about something Hmurchison hit on the the Books & Movies thread.


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Interracial relationship don't bother me. However I simply like to observe the "qualifiers" that people state for their reasons. Frankly who you date is who you date with no qualifiers needed but it speaks volumes when someone says "well I couldn't find the ideal xxxx man/woman"


I think the biggest problem with interracial relationships have to do with this statement. Those, "qualifiers" are what piss people off. Granted, there are some sistas who don't care why you date a white woman. Just the fact that she has white skin is enough. But if a black man or woman say that date outside the race because "they can't find good black people" then I think that's crazy. I think they are making an excuse for their true feelings, which seem to be ... they have a problem with self/race-hatred.

Don't know if anybody ever watched the show Girlfriends on UPN. But one of the sistas (i forget who) started dating a white dude. After that, a lot of sistas stopped watching the show. A friend of mine said that all the black guys that had been on the show who dating the sistas, all had issues. One liked sex too much; one cheated; one was lazy and could not keep a job. Then a white man comes along and is a savior and marries one of the sistas.

I ain't never had a problem with interracial relationshps. But i can't stand it when a black person says they do it because there ain't no black people to date.


Why do every brotha who date white women have to be a self hating brotha?..I date white women from time to time and I love myself. Maybe it's because the brotha can vibe with the women. Maybe the brotha finds her natural blond hair, pretty eyes, and slim body attractive. Maybe because the white women doesnt nag as much as black women. Maybe because brothas dont want to deal with the "its all about me" personality most sistas contain, and the baby mama drama etc. Now I'm not saying every black women is like this, but the majority are. And it makes it hard to find a good black women. The brotha remembers the time when he had no car, no money, and the average sista wanted nothing to do with him. It's like the cartoon popeye. The average good brotha sits on the sideline like popeye waiting for Olive Oyl(the black women) to leave bluto(the thug brotha). But when olive keeps running back to bluto all the time, and suffering the abuse which she puts herself into, are us good brothas suppose to play popeye and rescue you?!?...Then when most black women come to their senses that these no good thugs are bad for them. There left with excessive baggage, kids, overweight and bitterness. Then they want us good brothas to step up to the plate. But most us good brothas are with women of other races who knows how to treat men. Then sistas complain about theres no good black men out..


Just SAD. I think black women would be even luckier if you dated white or non-black women exclusively. Your diatribe towards us just screams potential black female batterer if not murderer. And here is another pop culture reference that analogizes black gender relationships better than yours. Steve Urkel pursued the uninterested and socially different Laura Winslow even when a cute yet similarly nerdy Myra expressed a pathological devotion to him. Myra was just like him: not popular, beyond smart, musical instrument inclined, questionable wardrobe, etc., however that never piqued his interest. Bill Gates isn't married to a Pam Anderson look-alike he is married to a woman in his league sweater vest and all. I don't see black men (good or bad) pursuing those black women who aren't hip-hop video caliber dimes. The black women who feel comfortable in jeans and tees, can't afford or don't care to get their hair and nails "did" working two jobs to pay for their education. "Good" black men have "good" black female equivalents. We are more moved by the cerebral than the material. Just like black thugs have their female counterparts. And self-proclaiming yourself "good" doesn't necessarily mean you are.






people are people and my boyfriend is black and I love it. Sexy Sexy sweetpea is what I call him and I am white the only thing I don't like is that when we lay next to eachother he show the fact that I am paste and not tan lol but as far as what others think they can kiss my butty cause now
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I have to say is that I see beauty in all women. I will not hesitate in dating or marrying a ww just like a would a bw. I just want what every humanbeing should want a peaceful and loving relationship
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So she wants her daughter to inherit the best of both worlds. But it seems all she wants her daughter to inherit from her Colombian husband is the Español and those exotic looks. And what’s worse is her insinuation that its ok for her child to be identified as Hispanic so she don’t miss out on the college scholarships. in this information in a dating ebook.
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