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hmurchison
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Popping the Question...when?
While on the way to Church yesterday my lady and I had a talk about proposing and when the ideal time in a relationship is. Of course it varies depending on the circumstances but we were speaking in generalities.

I said that Men generally think it's not much of a big deal to date a few years and then decide on marriage.

My gf said that that was WAY TOO LONG and that women are starting to get ****ed by then if they haven't sensed a forthcoming proposal.

WOW! Is that true ladies?? My best friend just got engaged after a year and a half and I thought that was damn early. My gf thought it was just right.

I guess there may be a bit of an impasse here. Most of the guys I know would think that in most cases 18 months is too soon for a proposal. I'd better get my butt in gear. My 2yr anniversary is coming this summer. If I'm not on the proposal track my life could seriously be in danger :P
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Done been there, done that! I proposed to one chick years ago. We had been together for about 4 years.

Most women seem to be ready after about a year. They are just waiting on the men to make the move!

I think a year and a half is okay, and two years is good. It takes a minute to really get to know somebody.
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Ummm... women REALLY don't want to wait years and years for a man to decide! Yes, you do have sistas who hang around (I've done it too!) for too long. But that is a female flaw where we tend to want to hold on to "love", hoping that our mate will eventually see us in something long-term.

But my limit is right at 2.5 years! Any brother who takes longer than that, has to go!!! LOL
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LOL Dayum Sarina22!! I wish my mom coulda hipped me up to this I would have had the funds for the Ice socked away. I'm hitting my 2yr Anniversary in August and I'm trying to get the things I need taken care of. I'm not losing my woman...she knows I'm sprung like T-Pain.
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Yeah... most of the women I've been with start talking about the marriage thang pretty early. I don't usually date women under 30years so the ones I do date are ready to walk that aisle!

Personally I think 3 good years is enough time to know somebody and decide if you want to get married. 1 year? NO! Not enough time to even know the lady's middle name!!
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Three years? Please! I would be SOOOOO gone! LOL
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Hey... if you are younger 3 years aint that long! But I wouldnt spend that kind of time if I was 45years old.
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I think men worry about the whole process of marriage. THe ring ..the wedding the life change. We're just apt to be a bit more reluctant.
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"Apt to be more reluctant", huh? I think this has to do with the long-standing tradition of men wanting to be with more than one woman.

Think about it: Men are known more for "sowing their oats" than women are; during ancient times, many men had (and wanted) more than one wife; men who cheat usually do for sexual reasons; etc.

In my opinion, the reason men are apt to be reluctant is because they want more than just one woman.
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3 YEARS?!! :lol: I'm like Sarina I would be audi 5000 like LL used to say.Honey,let me let you in on a little widely known secret. We women usually want children and most of us don't want to be taking our babies to Kindergarten at 40. So, we naturally want to get this whole mate for life thing down as quickly as possible. Believe me I teach the autistic and let me tell you most of these children are boys whose mothers had them in their mid to late thirties or early forties.Having children later in life seems like a good idea financially and emotionally because you're usually mature enough to handle the responsibilites of parenthood unforutunately biologically a woman should be wary about having children after 33.Which means for most of us even those who don't like to admit it the pressure to marry is on it's almost an unconcious thing. For a lot of my friends who aren't married and want children and are reaching that age are thinking of alternate routes to parenthood. So, my advice if you love her dont wait to long or you might just get left
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No doubt. I'd better get busy then. "We ain't get any younger so we might as well do it"
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