I'm Desperate To Get My Girl Back

The Brothas Response:

We repeat ... do not chase her.

Just stop doing it.

Stop calling her. Stop sending her emails and text messages. Stop asking her friends about her. Stop creating "convenient" occasions to run into her. Stop doing anything that pays her any attention.

Period.

Your endless pursuits will not magically convince her to come back to the relationship and the torture you're putting yourself through isn't worth it.

Right now... you have relinquished WAY too much control by showing her that you're desperate. She knows you want her and will take her sweet time making a decision. She knows you're willing to wait on pins and needles while she hangs out and enjoys herself. In fact -- she's probably been doing more than just going to clubs while you sit home with a broken heart.

But what she does in her own time doesn't matter right now. What does matter -- is how you handle yourself from this point on. We know you can't keep your mind from wandering and thinking about her -- but that's as far as it goes. Any and all other actions related to her must cease.

Whether you're the type of person who needs to talk or not, speaking with someone about your feelings can be therapeutic. Talk to other men who have been through similar situations. Also, consider talking with female friends to gather a different perspective on the matter.

After a while, she'll wonder why she's no longer important enough for you to chase her. If she's an attention freak ... (and it sounds like she is), she'll find it puzzling that you've gotten over her so quickly. Eventually, she will reach the point of self-discovery and realize that she walked away from a really good man.

We can't predict the future Chris, so we don't know how your situation will play out. But we do know that things will get better and as a result -- you will get better.

We're willing to bet the farm on that.

Signed,