(Mybrotha.COM) - Deciding to fall in love rests in the soul of a man. I know many women will dispute this statement, but allow me to justify my theory. First and foremost, for any man to fully recognize and truly embrace the complete essence of a woman, he must FIRST understand, comprehend and commit himself to a higher power. My Heavenly Father just so happens to go by the name of God, but I believe Jah (Rastafarian), Allah (Islamic), Yahweh (Judaism), Waheguru (Sikhism) all have the same significant meaning and implication to motivate the direction and purpose in which we choose to live our lives.

A man who recognizes God distinguishes the fact that he was created in His like image. Like the first man, Adam, everything that we will ever need already rests within us. For when God said it is not good for a man to be alone (Al(l)-one), He went inside Adam and created woman (wo(mb) of man) from his rib. Thus, a man of godly character should encompass the fact that a woman is a part of him. She resides as our helpmate, our sensitive side, our peacekeeper, our communicator, our inner peace and essentially the completion of our being.

I remember sitting around with the fellas a couple of summers ago, and one of my good friends was expressing his frustration in his relationship: "I don't know why she's always naggin' and crying to me for!! I give her everything: she has a house, car, a man who's a good father and has a good job, and all the bills are paid. What the hell else does she want!!??"

It holds no value to a woman if you give her everything because a real woman, if she so desires, can provide everything for herself. Too many men try to fix complications and relationship tribulations with the art of money. She doesn't require your check, car payments, or house note. She doesn't want your hair and nail salon money, a Coach purse or Prada shoes. What she truly desires is YOU! She wants your thoughts, your fears, your touch, your ideas, your sensitivity, your emotions, your hopes, your considerations and aspirations. From childhood to manhood, she wants you! She wants your dreams mapped out on construction paper so she can assist in building something more. She is simply longing to become ONE! The original format. The origin of life.

A woman belongs in you. That's why women have the tendency to love so hard. Your heart is her home. So don't misconstrue her inquisitive nature, or her wholehearted habit of loving because it provides the needed support for your unification. A man who knows these values respects the temple and sanctuary of a woman. He knows his role to cherish and nourish a woman as a gift. Regardless of how strong and independent she may portray herself to be, ultimately it is the duty of a man to clarify and flourish her loveliness as his own.

A woman of beauty is merely remarkable by sight, but a beautiful woman has an exquisiteness that is felt in the core of a man. She is gorgeous from the inside out. She stirs a fire of intensity within a man, which reflects in his growth, his maturity, his companionship, his fatherhood, his marriage and his spirituality. He desires to do and be better because her magnificence intrigues his development.

Too many woman try to force or compel this process, but it's ultimately the decision of the male to step into the realm of manhood. There comes a point in our growth where reality sets in, and the necessities that we found so frantically significant no longer holds any reverence. The desires of the chase subside, the thrills of sexual favors become a unique disgust, and the voids in our hearts finally fill with the urge to sacrifice and rebuild rather than unconsciously destroy.

Men don't fear commitment; men fear losing control of the feelings they so desperately hold on to.

The labeled "dog" of a man is truly his masculinity scarred and its attempt to re-establish a sense of pride and magnitude within himself. I believe a hurt man is often overlooked, ignored and truly deemed as weakness for him to express. Too often, men get hurt, but are never afforded the opportunity to articulate their emotions. We are taught and frequently forced to bottle that expression of grief and transform its misery into a careless act of rebellion.

For a man to cleave to a committed relationship, he must first choose to leave the childish and carefree habits of his past.

Thus confirming the conclusion to my supposition: It's better when a MAN decides to love first. Not saying it's impossible for a woman to motivate change within us but rather the hunger for change has to be sought after. A man with no purpose for life is living a worthless existence. As brothers, we need to build a relationship amongst our generations of past and present to help provide direction for the generation of tomorrow. Choosing to love is choosing to live.