Men who put their hearts and souls into building a relationship find it difficult to move on when ties are severed. Whether the relationship ends because of infidelity, a lack of sustained love and communication, or through pure incompatibility - the pain experienced can be devastating. The usual issues that hurt women also hurt men. Thoughts of insecurity, betrayal, trustworthiness, and loyalty are common, and will eventually test every fiber of a man's heart.
However, as a result of the inherent structure of our egos, men often struggle with other unique relationship heartaches women may not be aware of.
Since males aren't traditionally seen as emotional beings, we are often labeled as being excessively consumed with pain after a significant relationship ends. Psychologists attribute this overreaction to the lack of emotions and communications men experience throughout their lives. After being hit with the destruction of a relationship, many men are unprepared for the emotional rollercoaster they find themselves on. Often, the male psyche doesn't know how to cope with this type of anguish.
The usual group of standard questions arise when this happens: "Does she find someone else more attractive than me?", "Does someone else make her feel happier and more safe?", "Does he make her feel better sexually and emotionally?", "What could I have done better to make things right?"
These self-induced queries will sometimes cause a man to doubt his own abilities, banishing his manhood into an sea of despair, embarrassment, and distress. This behavior often leads to anger with oneself for allowing the vulnerability to exist.
But there are steps men can take to deal with the stresses of an emotional breakup.
Both men and women are often criticized for taking too long to "get over" someone when experiencing a bad breakup. While sitting idle in life, wallowing in pain and heartache isn't exactly healthy -- it is extremely common. For men who experience heartache, here are a few things you should do -- and not do after a breakup:
Qualified therapists carry one or more of the following designations: Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), and National Certified Counselor (NCC).
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