How Male Emotions Are Effected During A Break Up
By Mybrotha.COM Relationship Editor

Both men and women are often criticized for taking too long to "get over" someone when experiencing a bad breakup. While sitting idle in life, wallowing in pain and heartache isn't exactly healthy -- it is extremely common. For men who experience heartache, here are a few things you should do -- and not do after a breakup:

DO:

• You've heard it a thousand times and it is true: Time heals. Unfortunately, you can't walk into a relationship kiosk and determine how much heartache time you have left on the clock. You heal when you heal. Give yourself time to assess what happened, grieve in your own way, and discover something else worth spending your time on.
• Be constructive in your thought processes. Men painfully ridicule themselves for being inadequate or insufficient when a woman initiates a breakup. Instead of concentrating on anything that may have been lacking or misplaced, try focusing on your strengths and abilities, and realize that someone else will be ecstatic with what you have to offer.
• Talk about your issue. Men who experience emotional distress during a breakup often find it therapeutic to talk with both men and women during the healing process. The experiences of other men may act as a common bond, signifying to you that you're not alone in your struggles. Female friends can be a blessing as well. Their insight into the mind of a woman may help you better understand how or why things went awry.

DON'T

• Seek revenge. Even though bitterness will sometimes cause resentment, nothing positive ever comes of it. The idea is that seeking revenge will feel good for a moment, somehow repaying your former mate for the pain she's caused. However, this does nothing but create a negative image of you. Steer clear of your ex. That means no phone calls, emails, or sudden appearances at her place of employment.
• Never use another woman to suppress your heartache. While suffering with the emotional distress of your breakup, developing true feelings for another isn't impossible -- but it is unlikely since your thoughts are still bound by anguish. Even when those thoughts momentarily disappear while hanging out with your new companion, you will eventually return to a harsh reality.
• Neglect yourself. Try your best to maintain as much normality as possible. Eat good food, exercise, watch your favorite tv shows, and keep on top of job-related activities. It is completely normal for your mind to waver every now and then, but any significant disruption in your routine may cause more emotional instability.

If you experience severe bouts with depression as a result of a dissolved relationship, consider seeking help from a professional relationship therapist.

Qualified therapists carry one or more of the following designations: Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), and National Certified Counselor (NCC).