Male Issue #2
Some men believe that the only way a truly platonic friendship can exist, is when a man is not physically attracted to a woman; or when a woman sends clear signals that she is not, and cannot be attracted to him.

The male ego occasionally creates confusion in the male mind, causing men to wonder why a woman thinks he's good enough for friendship, but not for intimacy. The problem with this thought process is that men and women have different beliefs regarding platonic friendships. Women see a friend, who just happens to be male; while men see a female, who just happens to be a friend.

Men also have a natural tendency to think that a female friend, in a vulnerable state -- may be more open to male/female sexual contact. This reasoning is generated through years of social nurturing that places men in the role of rescuer or problem solver. In fact, most male/female friendships start off with some type of attraction to the woman.

Female Issue #2
Sexual tension is probably the biggest dislike women have in their platonic friendships. Women choose male friends who are open, comforting, and supportive -- almost using them as surrogate partners or big brothers. For many women, having a good male friend is like having a special partner -- without the commitment.

Women often mention that friendships with men are more fun and relaxing than those shared between female friends. Female-to-female friendships often include social challenges like jealousy, competition, and emotional baggage.

Friendships with men are less dramatic and gives women the opportunity to edify relationships without compromising trust.

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So the answer to our question, "Can men and women be platonic friends?" -- is a resounding, "Yes"

The challenge for men is determining whether any physical or emotional connections exist. If so, a platonic friendship will likely be nothing more than a lustful quest for something more. If not immediately, some time in the future.

Cross-sex friendships can benefit both men and women:

• Men spend time being more open and communicable -- something that doesn't usually happen in male-to-male friendships
• Both women and men are able to communicate with the opposite sex without relationship tension.
• Men and women who recognize a physically attractive platonic friend and respect their bond -- are more likely to have more stable platonic friendships in the future
• Over time, both men and women may recognize qualities that are tolerated in friendship, wouldn't work in relationships

Platonic friendships can be extremely rewarding. It is up to the both parties to establish effective communication and define the boundaries. If sexual attraction becomes a part of the dynamic, friends should address it for the sake of survivability.