Truthfully -- it means that as a responsible and mature man, you have a number of tasks in front of you.

The good thing is, you have already won half the battle if you come to the table with a stellar history of being a good guy. This includes respecting our sistas, respecting yourself, being responsible and accountable for your actions, leading by example, and having a goal-oriented mind that loathes complacency.

The other half of the battle can be tackled by exploring your spirituality; developing a strong sense of character; and reading great, informative articles...like this one!

So again, take inventory of yourself and make sure you're bringing the best brotha to the table. Forget about all of the fluff and stuff you see at the clubs, and all of those hot honey's you see in videos. It's cute, but it's all for show.

A real, live woman has a heart and mind. She has emotions, problems, a career, a life, and real hair that doesn't always do what she wants it to do. That can create a bad day for both of you!

These are real situations and you will eventually have to deal with them. We're being pretty blunt here. But we could not tell you any other way. Sugar-coating this topic won't help you, and would mean that we're not doing our job.

If you haven't packed up and headed for the hills yet, congratulations. You're on your way to wading through the fantasies, and realizing what is real.