Let the truth be known... all humans lie. Being dishonest is one of the sad pieces of the sin package each of us is born with. Determining when or if someone is lying is not always easy. Some folks have become masters at disguising the truth which usually spells trouble for the person(s) being lied to.

When it comes to you and your significant other, can you tell if she's being totally honest with you?

You could easily use some of the most common detection techniques like observing a change in body language, nervousness in her voice, or simply by knowing the truth beforehand and interrogating her afterwards. You could also use some proven, powerful detection techniques that will protect you and teach you how to get the truth... every time.

Honesty and trust, along with communication, are the most important factors in having a successful relationship. Unfortunately, we live in an imperfect world where deception is inevitable and relationships can be rough. Whether you are married, have a girlfriend or, "just a friend", men should make a conscious effort to listen to their mates' words and the meanings behind those words. Guys often miss the true intent of well-chosen words because we're too busy thinking about our next set of accusations to spew.

• For example, if you ask her where she was last evening, be sure to take note of her response time and how often she responds. A guilty party tends to add more substance to an already contrived story. This usually happens because guilty persons are uncomfortable with silence and will often dream up more juicy tidbits until you respond.
• Be sure to play your part. When you ask the tough questions, don't continue to talk or berate your mate. Even after she's given you a brief response, wait to see if she adds more fuel to the flame.
• When you ask your mate a question, be cautious if she discounts or demeans the question. For example, if you ask, "Did you kick it with Chris after the party last Friday?" Be concerned if she gives an answer like, "No... of course not. You know I think cheating is wrong." Or, "How could you ask me something like that. Doing that would be beneath me and I'm not like that." To a lying sista, offering proof of her innocence by criticizing the question, is common.

Such an expression means literally that everything that came before them is a lie, everything that will come after will be a lie, but for now, she's decided to pause to tell you the truth. If a woman is going to tell you the truth, it's unlikely that she would start off by saying just that. If she feels the need to tell you that she's being honest and that you're about to receive the whole truth, you can be pretty sure you're not getting it".

A final bit of advice. If a woman professes, "I never lie" or "I cannot tell a lie", be very cautious of her. Lieberman further states, "Anyone who needs to declare her virtuous nature does so because there is no other way for you to find out. Some people will say just about anything to sound believable, and even lie straight to your face. One's honor should speak for itself."

Unfortunately for us guys, women tend to be a whole lot better at hiding the truth than we are. To better protect your heart and mind, listen to each and every word she presents to you. If you question her, notice her body language and how often she repeats declarations of innocence. If she tells you that she is the most honest person that you will ever meet, don't walk away -- run.

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