6. Always kissing up.
   She's your beautiful queen. A sugar-dumplin', honey-spiced, chocolate bunny pie. But she's also a human being. Which means if she commands respect, she also has the ability to return it.

   Some people deserve respect simply because they exist:

   a) Your mother - because she's a woman and ushered your nappy-head into the world.
   b) Women in general - because they're women and the Good Bible tells us that we're supposed to be respectful of the female entity.

   Outside of this basic level of respect, all other respect is earned. Don't be so apologetic (unless you've really screwed up); don't assume that she's always right; and don't take the blame for something that isn't your fault.

   More importantly, don't place your lady on such a high pedestal that she forgets where the ground is. A truly level-headed sista wouldn't want to be that high, and may eventually resent being in a relationship with a big pushover.

7. Complacency.
   If you are not exactly where you want to be in your life (financially, academically, or spiritually) -- it's okay. Women tend to focus more on the future, so you shouldn't worry about having the world in your palm when you first meet.

   Over time, most women will expect to see some progress and eventually some results. Try not to sit idle as life passes you by. Even if you're not the biggest fish in the pond, being tenacious and goal-oriented is all any woman could ask for. If she's asking for more, you might want to reconsider who you're with.

8. Choosing a woman based on appearance alone.
   This is really dangerous, but all men know that it is difficult to look past the sexiness.

   Physical attraction is extremely important, and men sometimes forget to investigate the other critical attributes they desire in a woman. Since we are from the 'Planet of Imagery', male judgment is often clouded in the beginning of a relationship. A man's interest in physical compatibility may keep him from thinking about those other crucial attributes until it's too late.

   Don't forget about essential qualities like compassion, compatibility, and whether or not she makes any sense when she speaks.

9. Placing someone (anyone) or something before your mate.
   This includes friends, relatives (See Mistake #5), co-workers, animals, your car, or your hobbies.

   Granted, there will be times when you would like to hang with the boys, or occasions when you have extra work to do on some new project. But those things should never hold more meaning than your relationship. When a woman feels that someone or something is more important than she is, you may have problems getting her to respond to anything you have to say.

10. Yielding to temptation from other women.
    For some odd reason, women are frequently more attracted to men who are attached or already married. This isn't a good thing if you're in a strong relationship and have a weakness for lust. Your wife or girlfriend isn't stupid -- she knows that you can't help but look at other women from time to time. But that's as far as it goes.

    If the tempter is cognizant of the situation and isn't a woman of good moral character -- (and she likely isn't since she's obviously seeking to tempt), she may not care about disrupting your relationship -- especially if she knows you're interested in stepping out of line.

    Be vigilant when this happens. It takes a lot of patience and integrity to go against the grain. Being tempted is natural -- yielding to it is stupid.

There you have it. We hope these 10 tips are helpful for men who are in relationships, and those who are about to jump into one.

Just remember -- any man can make a mistake once. Any number past (1) and we may have to consider kicking you out of the club.