Many relationship problems we experience with our significant others can affect personal growth, relationship stability, and overall well-being. Black men and women who experience problems in their relationships, and who value their bond, should seek to make better decisions and take specific actions to create, nurture and grow a more successful relationship.
Most relationship problems center on finances, happiness, and overall human nature differences between men and women. Real relationships take work, and while many psychologists will tell you that some stressful situations are expected, we have some tips to help you recognize and repair relationship problems:
You will find this listed at the top of almost every relationship repair guide. Effective communication is paramount in helping to understand and extinguish problems in your relationships. Many times, both men and women tend to suffer in silence, allowing time to heal all wounds. Unfortunately, time doesn't heal in these cases. Problems that occur and go unresolved, will likely manifest themselves in another form later on.
You won't find many people who don't welcome being heard and appreciated. When we listen attentively without interrupting and probing, we are showing that we accept the responsibility of taking the time to hear what our mates concerns are.
Be sure to make yourself available for those talks. Allow your mate to openly and honestly speak to you about anything and everything that may be on their mind. Part of this commitment, includes creating time to spend with together and setting up visits at some point.
Another important part of this commitment is learning to cope with longing and lonliness. Being open about your feelings concerning the distance will help prepare you for whatever future steps you plan to take in your relationship.
Everyone has an unwritten set of rules that govern their lifestyles and the decisions they make. What makes up your personal values? Commitment, honesty, attentiveness, financial stability, etc., are just a few values you may find crucial to your relationship success.
Misunderstandings and conflicts arise when our values conflict with those of others and when expectations are not met. One way to help alleviate this issue is by letting potential mates know what your values are, and talking about your standards.
You can also discover someone's set of values by asking questions and observing their decisions and actions. When you know what is important to others and yourself, you are better able to avoid breaking each other’s rules.
Show Your Love
Outside of being open and honest about your values, you can help repair relationship problems by generating acts of love and affection. Acknowledge your mate's dreams, talents and achievements. Give praise and appreciate their efforts inside and outside of the relationship.
Hold Your Ego
Especially important for men is removing your ego during relationship strife. It can be difficult to observe a different point of viewpoint, but this is crucial in working through the toughest relationship issues. During arguments--which all couples will experience--each person wants to defend their opinions and prove their points. Men often inject strong egotistical opinions in an argument that are mainly self-serving and unfairly stated.
Dropping your ego a notch won't alter your personality, but it will give you a better view on what your mate's stance may be.
Trust is another very important characteristic of a relationship. Be sure to keep your promises, and be sincere when making decisions that will affect your mate. When you hold someone's trust, you are able to influence how much and how often they will listen to you.